Tuesday, August 3, 2010

Owning Your Life

I was reading "The Inner Game of Stress" by Timothy Gallwey, last week and came across a statement that really blew my socks off. It was:

"You have the rights and responsibilities of ownership of something very incredible - a unique human body and a unique human life."

Not that profound on first reading, right? But give it some thought. If you are anything like me, you often take your life for granted. Sometimes it just feels like life is something that happens to you - something over which you have no control. Other people seem to make all the decisions and our lot in life is just to react and roll with the punches. But reading this statement caused a shift in my perspective. All of a sudden I realized that yes, I do own my life. No one else can live it but me. I have CHOICES in life - what I do, where I go, where I live, who I spend time with. And the choices I make are what impact my life.

Sometimes I do wish there was someone else who could make my decisions for me. It can get tiresome after awhile. Even just to have someone else who can tell me what to make for dinner! But, when I think about it some more, I realize that every time I let someone else make a decision for me, I am giving them control of my life. And then it is no longer my life, but theirs. I lose a little of my independence, and a little of myself too. It is like driving a car. If you hand over the keys and let someone else take the wheel, you have made the choice to go where they want to take you. I have discovered that I like being in the driver's seat. As the statement says, I have responsibility for my unique human life. My choices may not always be right, but at least they are my choices!

Have you let other people "drive" your life or are you at the wheel? Do the choices you make reflect who you are and what you want? If not, maybe it is time to consider taking control of your own unique life. It can be a thrilling joy ride!